Please follow these safety measures when BIHEBARI gives you someone unknown.

When talking to someone online, especially if you've met them on a platform like Bihebari, it's important to prioritize your safety. Here are some safety measures to follow:

1. Keep Personal Information Private: Avoid sharing sensitive personal information such as your home address, phone number, workplace, or financial details with someone you've just met online. Wait until you've built trust and feel comfortable with the person before sharing such information.

2. Use the Platform's Messaging System: Stick to using Bihebari's messaging system or other secure communication channels provided by the platform. Avoid moving the conversation to external messaging apps or giving out your personal contact information too soon.

3. Trust Your Instincts: Pay attention to your gut feelings and instincts. If something feels off or makes you uncomfortable during your conversations, trust your intuition and consider ending the interaction.

4. Take Things Slow: Avoid rushing into meeting in person or sharing too much personal information right away. Take the time to get to know the person gradually and build trust over time.

5. Verify Their Identity: If you're unsure about the person's identity or authenticity, consider asking them to verify their identity through video calls or other means provided by the platform. Be cautious of profiles with incomplete information or suspicious behavior.

6. Meet in a Public Place: If you decide to meet the person in real life, always choose a public place for your first meeting. Let a friend or family member know where you'll be and who you'll be meeting. Consider arranging your own transportation to and from the meeting place.

7. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and expectations for your interactions with the person. Communicate your comfort level and what you're looking for in a relationship to ensure that both parties are on the same page.

8. Report Suspicious Behavior: If you encounter any suspicious behavior or feel unsafe during your interactions with someone on Bihebari, report them to the platform's support team immediately. They can investigate the situation and take appropriate action to ensure the safety of their users.

Remember, your safety is paramount when meeting people online. By following these safety measures and staying vigilant, you can enjoy meaningful connections while protecting yourself from potential risks.

Why should you Let Boy and Girl meet first than Parents.

 In the traditional approach to arranged marriages, parents often take the lead in selecting potential partners for their children. While this practice stems from a place of love and concern, it can sometimes lead to mismatches and misunderstandings. At Bihebari, we advocate for a more modern and empowered approach—one that involves letting your son and daughter meet directly before involving parents. Here's why this approach can lead to a win-win situation for everyone involved:

1. Empowering Individual Choice: Allowing your son and daughter to meet directly empowers them to make choices that align with their own preferences, values, and aspirations. By taking the lead in their own matchmaking journey, they can explore potential matches with a sense of agency and autonomy, ensuring that their decisions are informed and empowered.

2. Avoiding Miscommunication and Misunderstandings: When parents take the lead in matchmaking, there is often a risk of miscommunication and misunderstandings between the prospective partners. By letting your son and daughter meet first, you can avoid these pitfalls and ensure that they have the opportunity to communicate openly and honestly with each other, fostering a foundation of trust and understanding.

3. Reducing Pressure and Expectations: Involving parents in the initial stages of matchmaking can sometimes create undue pressure and expectations on both sides. By letting your son and daughter meet first, you can create a more relaxed and low-pressure environment where they can get to know each other without the weight of parental expectations looming over them.

4. Facilitating Genuine Connections: When prospective partners meet directly, they have the opportunity to form genuine connections based on mutual interests, values, and chemistry. By fostering authentic connections from the outset, you increase the likelihood of finding a compatible match who shares your son or daughter's vision for a happy and fulfilling marriage.

5. Enlisting Bihebari's Support: By involving Bihebari in the matchmaking process, you can leverage our expertise and resources to facilitate meaningful connections between your son or daughter and potential matches. Our platform offers a range of features designed to enhance the matchmaking experience, including comprehensive profiles, intelligent matchmaking algorithms, and secure communication channels.

In conclusion, letting your son and daughter meet first before involving parents can lead to a win-win situation for everyone involved. By empowering individual choice, avoiding miscommunication and misunderstandings, reducing pressure and expectations, facilitating genuine connections, and enlisting Bihebari's support, you can ensure that your son or daughter's matchmaking journey is both fulfilling and successful. Join Bihebari today and take the first step towards finding the perfect match for your loved one.

Trust only after you meet. Be Careful

BE CAREFUL BEFORE YOU DO FINANCIAL TRASACTIONS

Recently we made connection of a guy form Nepal and a Girl from UAE. Both of them were divorced. They were chatting and knowing one another. After chatting for a week guy showed his problem and asked Rs 50K for help with the Girl. Girl trusted boy and gave it to her. Again guy asked for another 50K and she again deposited it for him. After few days later guy stopped responding to her. She was cursing herself why she lend him her money. Since there was Festival called Ramdan in UAE she couldn't let me know. Later on she told me what happened. I told her it was her mistake and why she didn't let me know at the time when guy was asking for money. 

Fortunately, Today that guy returned Rs 50K. I was threating him as I would make his photo and other documents public if he didn't return. You were lucky enough miss he returned you 50K and he said he will be returning other this Friday. I will be following him. I will try my best to return from him.

My request to all of you is if anyone is talking to you and making various excuses and asking for money then please do inform us. We know profiles more than you guys do. We may have complain or report against that profile so we will be warning you as well as make you aware not to be in touch with such type of guys. 

One Night Stand

 Today I got a message from a Girl who wanted to get married. She was 21 years old. She said she has a kid, but she is not married. She is a single mother. So, I wanted to know more about her so asked her what happened? Her reply was it was a one-night stand. 

How can that be so easy? Why Today's Generation are being so careless. 

What is the right age for Marriage? Bihebari's Experience.

Lots of People revolve around this question. What is the right age to get married? So what's your Opinion please do Comment below.

Normally people used to get married at the age of 9 to 11 at our grandparent's era. But now this system is not into existence. Gradually age of getting married start to increase and people start getting married at the age of 18 to 21. This lateness is increasing day by day and people are getting married in high age. Today I am going to explore my experience as a founder of Bihebari Marriage Bureau what will be the right age for marriage.

We belong to Hindu Society let's say Nepali Society. A boy gets his education up to age of 21-25 After educational qualification he has pressure to search for a better job so that he can look after family. But in case of a girl, she is not prohibited for education rather she is also not in any kind of pressure that she should look after the family and get a better job. A boy will marry her, and he will look after her that's what our Nepali Society has made assumptions regarding a boy and a girl. 

When we start taking about marriage then come the subject of reproduction as well. If our reproductive organs are not matured enough to give birth only after the age of 20. So, there was slogan in Nepali Society "Bihebari bis barsh pari" i.e. "विहेवारी २० वर्ष पारी".  Which states that marriage should be done only when you are above 20.  Many doctors and Researchers also tell us that both girl and boy should get married within 21-30 age. Moreover, in case of girls if a girl gives birth to her child withing the age gap of 21-30 that's the best age, increase in age decreases the fertility rate says the expert. To some extent same case is true for boys as well. 

As per my experience some people are getting married at the age of 21, 25, 30, 35, whereas some at the age of 28, 48, 68. Yes, reproduction case may affect but the main thing is your happiness and your well-being. You should be above 20 to get married is the primary factor whereas in Secondary Factor you have to be independent as well as you should be well prepared both mentally and physically in order to get married. If you aren't prepared well then, your life after marriage will be me more complicated. So, this is the right age or right time to get married. 

Does Looks Matters in Marriage Life? Bihebari Experience Revealed.

Garima's Parents were searching for a good life partner to her daughter. It was an arrange marriage. So, parents had finalized a guy. But the guy didn't accept her because she was average in looks. She was really disappointed by the incident. Since she was struggling for her better job in her life. Boy's rejection made her loose her confidence. But she focused on her career, and she got opportunity in USA and got citizenship over there.

Later on, that guys parents find out her progress. They came to visit her with lots of apologies they again asked Garima's hand for their son. To my Suprise girl accept the proposal. 

This incident made me feel that looks doesn't matter but success, money do matters. 

Similarly, some people say that it's pointless.

Some beautiful girls are getting married to not so attractive men but still they are happy in their life. 

some say that my uncle is tall, handsome but he is married to dark, uglier girl and still they are happy. 

Ravi shares his experience with us

I am handsome guy and I earn more than Rs. 150K per month. I was looking for suitable life partner for me and it was totally arranged marriage. What I found is that all girl who look beautiful are full of demands like good house, guy should have good family background, no kinds of loans and so on. This incident made me to see girls with hated point of view. One of another findings is that these types of girls and their parents are searching for a guy who is well settled at the age of 28, and that is not possible, I guess. 

Then I met a girl with Average looks. She was very positive and ready to accept all my middle-class conditions. She told me that it our new relationship and we have to grow it together. I am ready to face all the situations and difficulties with you. At first, I was a bit disappointed why that earlier girls aren't like her. I got married with her. 

These days I earn Rs 170K per months whereas she earns Rs85K per month. We are listening to one another's problem and growing up together in happiness. And this is what we all need in life, I think. 

Main theme is looks doesn't matter much these days. What they look is for long run future security like age, family wealth etc. Especially many girls look for 2-3 years of age gap, and they reject lots of decent, well educated, rich boys even they find their future to be secured. 

  

Bihebari Experinces

 I am IT manager of Bihebari and I am dealing with lots of people. In this blog I want to share various case that we have been dealing with. I will try my best to make you understand. 

Bihebari Marriage Bureau was conceptualized at 2018 were as it was officially inaugurated and legalized in December 2019. We have helped lots of people and we will be helping others as well. 

Since its a new concept in Nepal people are feeling difficulties to represent themselves as a candidate for marriage. Another group of people think that people that are available via online means are supposed to be fake. Next group thinks that people visit such marriage bureaus if they have any kind of defect, or they are handicapped or physically disabled. 

Constant thing in life is change. We have to change ourselves with time. As new generations are popping up with new ideas and concept. We Bihebari Marriage Bureaus is also trying to change the tradition method of searching life partner. 

In search of better job, carrier and many more facilities people are out of their countries, and they are unable to find their life partner. So, if you are also in search of life partner then Do remember Bihebari Marriage Bureau. We are here to serve you.  

We have lots of single boys and girls as well as divorced and widow who are searching someone as their life partner.